HA HA HA...BEAUTIFUL SUNDAY

Sunday morning up with the...lark?.... no, it was more of  with a bark.... or barkings.
Those 'babies' of mine won't give me peace and quite even on mother's day.
Aarr...it's a rainy sunday and it's mother's day. ... would have been sooooooooo ideal to stay in bed longer.
When I finally managed to drag myself out of bed it was already almost seven.
Trying to get back to sleep was nearly impossible knowing that  there were 'things' that need urgent doing.
yea.. yea.. 'things'  that  associate with four legs.

I could wait for the maid to deal with them but that would be tolerating the 'voices of demand' for a whole hour or so more depanding on the discreation of her working hours.
For a fact too I know she comes in late on Sundays.
So much for mother's day to be picking 'poops' huh.... nervertheless that was what I did before giving myself the day off.

Mom came over with Lydia at around two. She complained her house phone was not working.
Likewise!...I told her.
My cordless phone is out of order and so is the TM free phone. It's been days but I just haven't made time to 'deal' with that issue yet.

I wanted to watch my mother's day marathon movies on DIVA but the girls were doing their homework in the living room ( where the air cond was on ) and so the rest of my 'holiday' was spent going through youtube.
Doing  'nothing' -What a wonderful holiday to celebrate one of the most important people in your live.


My thoughts of my mother on her day
When I think of my mother or mothers in general, I think of someone powerful, caring but importantly someone who is always there when we need her. Mom has always been my girls 'backup' mother.
Much to the envy of my siblings.

People always says that we will 'grow up' and become our mom. ..really?
And despite hearing countless remarks on how much my looks and mannerism reminds them of her,
I totally disagree.I am nothing like her.
Look wise, mannerism wise moreso personality wise.
Never was and will never be....end of story!

We have a special bond with all it's complex emotions, anger, resentment,competition and of course, love.

I love her, sometimes  hate her. Sometimes she’s the last person I want to see.
These are  the seesaw of feelings between my mother and me.
She is after all ...not me. .She is another person altogether.
But...she is my mother.
One of the two person who gave life to me.

I’d like to think that I have a good relationship with my mother now....to a certain level. At least we are able to be in the same room long enough to hold my disagreements before 'blasting' them off  to any ears ( willing or otherwise) once I'm back home.

 But it's not always like that.There were and are still lots of 'things' that we can see eye to eye.
These seesaw of feelings with my mother went on  for years as far as I can remember.
One minute I was telling her everything that was happening in my life, and the next minute, I was sneaking out and hiding the truth.
Maybe because of the 'generation gap' or her mind stayed 'old fashion'
..or she herself ( or me ?) just grew 'old' ..hehehe.. ( thou it's more growing up for me.)

These past years, she doesn't  seem to 'see' a lot of 'things' my way (again...or is it the other way round?).
To avoid any unnecessary arguements , I would normally bite my tongue and just 'see' it from her point of view.
What I have learned in life, especially when mom is concerned is that I have to choose which battles to fight with her. Not all of them are worth fighting for....at least not for now.
I am the younger mom and therefore must make ways for she who .....
'ate salt' first......???
A statement which I don't totally agree although I willingly embrace and cherish her motherly love for the fact that she is my mother and she will always be my mother not matter what.
Honoring that fact simply by respecting and loving her back.

I don't have to like everything about her though I do love her very much.

Can men and women be just friends?

Can  a woman be 'buddy-buddy' with a guy other than the usual romantic way?.

Which brings me to another question.  Can you love somebody and yet be inspired by another?  And I’m not talking about being inspired by a celebrity or famous person.  I meant being inspired by somebody you know personally.  Would that be wrong?

Maybe such a relationship can exist, but I still believe some amount of attraction (not necessarily physical) is present.
I guess it doesn’t really become so unusual when one become “inspired” by some other person you know cause as I have said, emotions are often mysterious, it's always a dynamic thing, and we just have to ride on it and put a rein on it whenever it becomes a little too over the hedge…

Come to think of it, I have lots of male friends. These men say that I’m “one of the guys.” I think it’s easier to deal with men than with women (no offense to female readers), generally speaking.

FULL DAY... Advance mother day dinner

Woke up at almost seven. The thought of going to church this morning did occured to me as Atlas was here.
As usual when the maid don't come , I had to rush and do all that is of urgency before eight.
Service starts at 8.30 am so we would need to leave the house around eight.

When Lydia called, laziness kind of change my mind and told her that I won't be going afterall .
That said, I went in to do my cafe :)
I had actually done all the necessary last night.
Sandakan residence had been 'warned' online that today the water supply would be 'cut' off.
I had done the laundry plus wash the compound last night right before mom called asking us to come over for a session of 'sago eating'.

Yona's training would start at eleven thirty. We left the house an hour earlier because we wanted to take early lunch at Zakaria's.
I had missed their murtabak daging and the yearning was shared with Yona.
Training takes about two hours plus but somehow today it seems to go fast as I sat outside chitchatting with Hj Sojie and Carol's mom.
Today too I got to see where Carol was staying when I send them home after training.
Her dad was away in KK and her mom doesn't drive.I was more than happy to send them since we were going through the same route. Moreso I felt pity knowing that they have to take two bus to reach home.

Stopping over at BDC's Swee Teck  and browsing over the new stuff they had just finish displaying took about an hour more of our journey home.
Another stop at Kim Fung's market also took about an hour.
Both of us were feeling hungry over today's early lunch. We ordered a big bowl of hot porridge each.
It was almost five by the time we finally reach home.

I had the feeling that  mom would be calling us for dinner tonight as Atlas and Laura were around.
I went out to get some batteries for the cordless phone when she didn't call after eight.
Well, she actually did call just as I left the house according to Yona.

They had started dinner before we all reached there.
...mother's day dinner that is.
It was normal for Atlas to have something simple ready for mother's day or any other celebrated day whenevere he was home.

Missing one of my powerpuff girls

2011 mother's day cake

my piece of cake

Awh....saying it with flowers

I didn't joined in the prepration except in the photo session and the makan makan..
 Mother's day afterall was not exactly today.....then again you don't really need a mother's day to remind yourself of what a great mom we all are.

WHAT I CANNOT CHANGE

Often when we are faced with problems or difficult situations, we feel isolated and think we are the only ones in the whole world who are suffering this badly!. The more accurate reality is that there are many others who have gone through what we feel.

Some songs just 'gets' to you :)

ELECTRICITY,WATER,VOMIT....ARRRR!!! ... CAKE :)

If much was going to get 'wrong' on any day than today would be one of those days.

Yona had been waiting for more than five minutes before I realised that we were already in the month of May. That would also mean that the teacher who used to take her to school won't be coming anymore.
She would have to rely on the public transportation  or me from now onwards.
Compared to the bas sekolah that would come around  as early as 5.20am , this arrangement was fine with her.

Lydia on the other hand, will still be going  with  her teacher ( hahaha...no choice for the teacher as her girls were Lydia's schoolmates PLUS she also teaches at the same school )
BUT.. today Lydia made a silly error on what day today was. She had ready her school books according to yesterday's timetable.Realising her mistake and with transportation already waiting outside...she carried all her books to school.  Poor girl . Her books weight a ton.

Andrew didn't fight for the use of the bathroom today but went off for jogging  instead.
Probably he feels he need to excercise after days of being in the house practically doing 'nothing' (if eating doesn't count)...or probably  there is a medical check up coming. Whatever it was, as usual he did his stuff while I did mine.
Then again, I  can't ( won't  actually) do much with him or anyone for that matter being in the house.
BUT today I did made myself do a LITTLE cleaning up of my bedroom stuff.
Namely  throwing out of outgrown and worned out  undergarments... (underwears was my word choice...but that sounds 'funny' and 'cheap').
I had baskets filled with them...not mine alone but the girls's as well.
'Aged' and loose ones are actually ones that are most comfortable and thus the most reluctant to be throw out.  Hahaha ...laugh.... but I'm defenitly sure I'm not alone here.
With that done. I went on to open my 'cafe'....hehehe what can I say  but 'routine'.
Aaarrr....I kept getting asked to refresh each time I use my oven . Is there a problem here?
Now how am I going to finish my quest which requires to use the oven.?.....double aaarrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!

Like adding insults to injuries...the electricity went off.
triple aaarrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But thanks to that ...I managed to get a few other chores done.

First there was Blink Blink.... he finally got his bath in a long time. Not that I really wanted to but he was already wet from getting in my way while I was washing up the compound. I stopped to just bathing him as the weather doesn't really permits me to do with the other twelve.

*I repotted my airplants.

*I cleared up the ' dumper drawer' . Thanks to that  now I can close it properly) .
*I partly clean the back kitchen plus throwing 'rubbish' from the backyard. I would have done more if the rain didn't get in the way..

Turning into 'aliens' with the camera's flash on

*Played with the seven dachshunds that are 'stationed' at the back portion of the house.
They are such loveable creatures, and they love you unconditionally. It'll be hard for me to give any of the them up.
*Went on to cook lunch plus a pot of pumpkin bubur.

Was about to take my shower when Lydia came back and raced me for who got to shower first.
Well...I let her win actually.
My turn and I was greeted with the sound of water droppings...
Nooooooooooo..... it was coming from the ceilling. You know what that means.
I just had that 'fixed' a few months ago.
Upon checking, I found one leaking plactic elbow. Temporarily, I just taped it with  duct tape. Which I ran out of halfway. It's not totally sealed and there's still a bucket on the ceilling to catch the droplets.

Lydia vomited.....in the sink!
Why? why?..... because I'm the mom?...I had to clean that up of course.
'Yaking' away telling her how 'stupid' her action was and never ever to repeat it.  Should  she ever does, she would be the one doing the cleaning up.
I think she got the 'idea' cos the next two times that she 'throws up' again was in the toilet bowl.

The one nice thing to end today was that I got to bake the carrot cake that I had been planning to do so for days. I was a little worried that the electricity would be cut again as it was raining 'crazy' by the time the cake was halfway in the oven.  Then again all went well and the cake turned our 'beautiful' not forgetting delicious'

DREAMS

What we dream about says so much about our thoughts, emotions and desires.

One of the most important principals for achieving success is to understand that your mind is like a garden bed where you cultivate and grow the seeds of thought.

LABOUR DAY

Woke up early for a sunday morning.
Being a holiday and labour day at that  ( hahaha...like I qualify) I had not planned anything to do except to complete my cafe world's quest of serving 525 corndogs. With the cooking time of one hour per serving , I was certain that within the two days that was left to do this last quest was enough.
I started to do them the moment I was up and about .
I knew the maid would be coming in later so I didn't bother to do much.
She came around the time Andrew and me went out for some breakfast.
I stopped over at mom's place to collect monies that Dad had asked me to bank in for him.
Not for him ...from him to be banked in for Dennis and Daisy (...who else?)
I still can't understand dad on this matter. I used to tell him not to 'bail' them each time 'something' came up but him being him and after all the 'grumbling and fuss', just never bother to listen.
I have long since given up on  interfering into his monies matters. It was afterall ..'his'.
Now, as much as I still don't like doing it,  I have agreed to do the banking for him. It's not the first time and I'm very sure won't be the last too.

I didn't managed to do it in the morning...not because I didn't want to but more because the ATM machine for deposits at the bank was not working....( having labour day off too).
I knew I would still need to bank in monies for my MBB account tomorrow so I did not bother to go for another machine (somewhere in town).
We stopped over at Tmn Mawar's market for some young coconuts and some other 'junk' food before returning home.
It rained heavily on and off  the whole afternoon . Multi tasking on the couch ..... online game, eating, watching tv  ( not in that particular order ) and napping.

Finally, I managed to creat a few sunflowers out of paperclay.
I had actually started with the leaves last night . They turned out very well indeed. 
I just hope Yona won't see them yet or else my stock of clay would be 'gone'.
I wanted to do some baking but refrain myself from doing so seeing the abundance food we had bought earlier on.  I went on to cook an early dinner thou.